Here’s something to titillate your neurons:
I am happy to see so many people are stepping into a leadership role with regard to posting blogs, teaching seminars and generally raising awareness about the implications of our children being bullied or becoming bullies…
That being said: May I suggest that we all take a look at the bigger picture around bullying.
Maybe you yourself have experienced what it feels like to be bullied, not just as a child but even as an adult…
Imagine for a moment that you overheard someone speaking about you, or something you supposedly did. You know for sure that this person does not really know you, they certainly do not know your circumstances or the true nature of your character.
Nonetheless, here they are using their words to attack you, your character, or your physicality. In that moment, don’t you feel bullied?
Let’s face it a bully exerts power over someone who feels powerless to do anything about it!
Whether directly or indirectly our words can be used to bully and damage another.
“Sticks and stones can break our bones but gossip really wounds us!” ~Dõv Baron
You know as well as I do that at its core bullying is a process that chips away at the self-worth of another, until they feel ashamed and not good enough.
Doing this we dehumanize another and we treat the person being bullied as if they have no soul. In so doing we have moved away from our own true compassionate nature and into soulless behavior.
When someone who does not truly know you speaks poorly of you or your situation, we call it “harmless gossip”. What I am suggesting is that in order to raise our own awareness as leaders of our families and our communities we need to call it by its true name: bullying! I myself, I am ashamed to say have been guilty of this and I urge you to also consider raising your own awareness around this kind of behavior.
Let’s remember that everyone from the homeless to the most famous celebrity has a soul. Despite what we hear or are told, let’s remember that we do not ever fully know who someone is or why they did a certain thing at a certain time.
Every time we gossip or add to the gossip about someone we do not personally know, (IE a celebrity) we are in fact bullying…
Isn’t NOW the time to step up to the next level of behavioural awareness? To be a leader who has the courage to NOT do what seems okay, but rather, step into excellence?
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