April 18, 2017 dovbaron

Conscious community… Trying to Stay Sober in the Pub

Whether we like it or not, whether we want to admit it or not: Life is all about relationships.

That being the case it’s certainly worth our examining the relational foundation of life.  Look, you know as well as I do that almost everyone who has ever been through a relationship will have quite naturally gone through a break-up.  That being said, it’s in your best interest to consider what part you played in the relationship’s end, and when I say relationship break ups,  I am in no way limiting that to romantic relationships.

So, let’s briefly go on a voyage of discovery and peek inside the minds of the people around us for some real life examples of some of the limiting beliefs and behaviors that directly affect relationships.

There’s a good chance that you know at least a handful of people who feel that the people they are surrounded with are not really there for them. You know what I mean, right? You get the impression that they hear what you are saying, but aren’t really listening — that they ‘don’t get you‘.

Maybe sometimes you might feel that you can’t be honest with the people around you because you’re afraid that if you spoke your truth you may hurt their feelings, or end up getting hurt yourself.

I’m curious; have you ever considered how many people are afraid of being honest with themselves because they are scared stiff that the truth would be too painful to face?

Why can it so often be so hard to have honest relationships even with ourselves? Well, keep reading I’ll get to it in a moment, but first….

Let me be straight with you: Relationship, as I said earlier is one of the great foundations of life, and if we don’t master that foundation there is always a sense that something is missing.

One sure-fire way to tell that you have not mastered your relational foundation of life is if you’ve ever felt a certain ‘disconnection’ from the people who surround you. Moreover, there’s a strange feeling that many of your relationships are actually based on obligation — a sense that you must participate ‘or else’s rather than a conscious choice, and this is a massive sign that your relational foundation is out of whack.

I’m sure you can feel that the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on every aspect of our lives, that we are a part of a collective consciousness. Those who surround us affect many areas we don’t consciously think about, including, but not limited too; how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about our circumstances, the decisions we make and what we end up believing we deserve and therefore what we attract into our lives.

One of the most challenging things we can face is to be on a path of consciousness while having no conscious community…

It’s like trying to stay sober while living in the pub.

To stay committed and connected to your life’s purpose you must surround yourself with a conscious community who get you and also get why personal growth is so important. That community needs to have a collective consciousness that upholds you in a safe place to grow.

Back to the Relational Foundation: One of the liberating benefits of mastering your relational foundation is that you happen to find yourself constantly surrounded by loving people who love you: people you respect deeply, and in turn, people who deeply respect you. By mastering your relational foundation you will establish healthy boundaries with everyone around you. You will also have the kind of honest relationships you’ve always wanted with both yourself and with others.

Take a breath because here’s the deal:

Once you are the master of your ego-mind’s fixed ideas about relationships…  you are not willing to put up with any crap!

When you have mastered the relational foundation of life; you don’t put up with being pushed around, and you don’t put up with people trampling all over your boundaries! Not only do you confidently speak your truth, you speak it while being open and compassionately able to hear someone else’s truth without the fear of hurting anyone and without the fear of being personally rejected!


Now come on, be honest, how does that sound?
Tell me, how bad do you want to be able to do that and be that way?

One final staggering comment on this foundation. By mastering your relational foundation, you learn to eliminate all fear in relationships so that you can experience love in its fullest form. Need I say more?

Once again this piece is based on The relational foundation of life as featured in my book… “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it!”

 

 

With gratitude,

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  1. Sofia

    Dov and Renuka
    I have done lots of things in and with my life, I have never ever experienced such a
    deep encounter with my self like I did at soul mates for singles.
    I saw my soul, the true me and I love it.
    I finally understand why I felt lost in my life and a failure in my marriages.
    I connected with my integrity at this workshop, I can now scream I LOVE MY SELF, I’m not afraid to commit any more because I know what I want.
    My first commitment in a relationship is the relationship with myself.
    You and Renuka are amazing intense beings .
    I will not forget this date because I feel I’m finally born into the life I want.
    thank you
    Sofia

  2. It`s great being part of your community but I didn`t join BMU to feel safe, what I wanted was other like minded people to interact with.
    Since I had my first face to face encounter with myself I realised I actually had to speak up even though I did not feel safe. I realised that feeling safe was something I needed to develop from inside as no amount of reassurance from a group was ever going to give me the inner security I needed to flourish. Over time I have begun to know that my foundations are not built on sand like they used to be, so speaking up and and allowing myself to experience some dreaded feelings I had been doing my utmost to avoid has mean`t I have gained in more ways than I could have imagined.
    It is a journey without end and I love every minute of it even the supposedly what I would call awful which is a label for an experience I did not want.
    Jane

    Thanks for all you are setting up Dov – it is greatly appreciated.

    • Dov Baron

      Hi Jane,
      thank you for your comments and I am delighted that you are enjoying BMU.com . You are absolutely right in that as I’ve pointed out many times throughout this blog and in other work: The ego wants to keep us safe, by doing the same thing, (even if it doesn’t work) over and over again. The safety referred to in reference to BMU.com is the safety to expand beyond what is comfortable while being surrounded by other who are also committed to their growth.

      It’s good to have you as a member of our conscious community.
      With gratitude, Dov…

  3. Karen

    Tried to sign up for the standard membership- just tells me I have to be referred by someone. Or it takes me to the Equation for Manifestation video, which I did earlier this year. Thought maybe I had already joined, but none of my email addresses are recognized. Am I missing something on this?

    • Dov Baron

      Hi Karen,
      I apologize for the confussion.
      Just send an email to Debbie and put “requesting a BMU.com invitation” in the subject line and she will send you an invitation to receive a free standard membership.

  4. Diane

    Well Dov
    My relational foundation seems to be truly out of whack at the moment! I’m talking about work relationships here. (personal relationships have ended in the past when one or the other of us has moved on because of work etc. depending on the country we were in. I’ve had one bad break up, learnt the lesson and didn’t repeat it!) Work-wise I have found from being quite young that, in certain situations, I don’t connect, even though I am capable of the job and doing it well. There again, I want to be back on the healing path ASAP – where I will be with more like-minded people. As soon as my EFM box arrives complete with your book I’ll be ready with a box of tissues – let the emotions flow!

    Wish me luck, I’m gong for a job interview in an hour’s time – been out of work since November!

    Thanks for everything you are doing. I wll be joining in more when I have the EFM as I feel others in the community are ahead of me and I can’t share with their comments yet, but looking forward to making lots of new friends.

  5. Teri

    Hi Dov,

    I like this post very much. It dances around a question I have been pondering about for some time now. And so, of course, it keeps popping up in my reality because I have not mastered it as yet. I am delighted that you brought it up in this post. When we are ready to learn, the teacher appears, right? I’m hoping you will zero even further in and target directly on the answer.

    In this post, you mentioned speaking the truth while we strive to be assertive and not take anything unacceptable from others. But at the same time, we want to be understanding, patient and forgiving. Most often, it is obvious which category an issue falls into, but sometimes there seems to be a fine line between the two. How can we tell the difference when it’s not obvious? Is there a definite guide or sign in which we can refer to?

  6. Deb

    Hi Dov & Renuka,

    Thank you both for showing me a new model for healthy relationships! Quantum Soulmates for Singles was ego busting at its best. You weren’t kidding when you said we had a minimum of a years worth of work to forge through with our notes. The more I pour over them the more emotional I feel about how I’ve sold my soul up the river by compromising who I am. I haven’t been very discerning in my life and it’s cost me in more ways than I can count.

    I’m amazed that I could lie to myself for so long, but once the light had been turned on, there’s no going back! I took one full day for myself to sit with my experience of the program. At the end of the day my partner called to invite me over. My tears flowed like a river just thinking about what I knew I needed to do. I wasn’t necessarily ready to see him because I was still processing so much, but I felt compelled to “just do it”.

    My ego had me convinced it was a life and death situation and my heart almost pounded out of my chest, but I was determined to honor myself and speak my truth. I knew I couldn’t wait another day. I absolutely owned my truth, my emotions and my feelings (NO STORY). I spoke with clarity, power, purpose and love. I felt as though a huge weight was lifted off my chest when I was done. He was very willing to “hear” me, could see clearly what I was talking about and why I felt the way I did. It was never his intent to indicate that it was not ok to be me.

    I felt “FUNTASTIC…OF COURSE” until my ego starting butting in. I had to remind it that you didn’t feed us with a firehose the first day we arrived at the program. It was a very respectful and gradual process that allowed for a safe environment to heal and grow in. One step at a time allows safety to grow for all concerned.

    Everything you provided is absolutely ego mind blowing! What an amazing team you are!!! I have a crystal clear picture of the two of you assisting me in a way that’s beyond words! I’ll carry that picture until death do us part!! It’ll be my daily companion to remind me TO FRICKIN BE WHO I CAME HERE TO BE!!

    Bless you my friends! You’re both amazing gifts to the world!!

    Love & Gratitude,
    Deb

    • Dov Baron

      Hey Deb,

      We love to see you step into the powerful woman that you truly are.
      With gratitude, Dov…

  7. cheryllc

    HI, and thanks for today’s profound message. I have been on a deep spiritual journey, by myself, in an environment of non-agreement for several years, and althouth it is deeply rewarding and has become my life’s work, I have been wondering why I am always alone in this. Seems I have chosen to do this alone, as there are opportunities to join a local community but I resist.
    Your message today told me so much about my journey. I have a deep daily contact with my higher self, and today all my efforts to prevail against the odds have been affirmed. The struggle, the disappointments, the solitary-ness and the resistance. The ego and it’s struggle to keep me small.
    Thanking you for the reassurance, and still waiting (not so patiently) for my Attracting Force package to arrive out here in the ‘colonies’ in Australia. Seems it may take 2 months. Keeping in touch, Cheryll C

    • Dov Baron

      Hi Cheryll,
      I am delighted that this post spoke to a deep part of you and has reassured you of your path. I appologise for the delay in your package arriving, I can only reassure you that it was shipped out within 24 hours of recieving your order. Unfortunately we cannot control the postal service in either your country or ours. However, I am certain that you will find many tresures within your home study program when it arrives.

      With gratitude, Dov…

  8. cheryllc

    Hi thanks for making this a REAL experience and not just an online internet contact. My search has brought me here to you, and you speak to my soul on so many levels. I do understand about the postal service, and will try to keep my impatience under control until such time as the package arrives. Be assured, I am very keen to get started. Your work inspires me, as the next step in my journey. As they say, ‘when the student is ready, the teacher arrives.’ For now, thanks for sharing your very deep experiences with me.
    Yours, in anticipation, Cheryll C.

  9. If I understood this post right, the relational foundation must be founded on us, meaning we must first develop a sound relationship with ourselves. When we have that then we are able to speak our truth, without worrying about hurting others (and more importantly – ourselves).
    Thanks for this. It has taken me a long time to develop a real honest relationship
    with myself, because as you say – it is probably the hardest thing we can do – to be completely honest with ourselves.

  10. Gina

    Throughout my life I’ve gone through many relationships and its always baffled me why does this happen? How could I have not seen who that person really was before it went so far? I work and always have done very long hours…more than 40 hours a week. I have three kids that two have already flown the coupe and have one that still is living with me. The two dead beat dads never helped financially or otherwise. Its been a very long bumpy road and now I can feel the exaustion settling deep within my body. They say no relationship is perfect and thats true. What I’ve noticed is that alot of people come with baggage and that truly makes them different and difficult to get to know the real them. I’ve got baggage but its neatly bundled up in my positive packages. I’ve dealt with it and now use it to help others, if they are willing to listen, what they do with it is up to them. Most people aren’t willing to change because they are scared of changing their lives. In my opinion if you love yourself then no change is worth keeping on the back burner, you have to make it happen. It is only then that you can be the real you and truly find happiness and hopfully true love and respect from a partner.

    • Dov Baron

      Hi Gina and many others,

      Everyone’s got their own baggage and it doesn’t matter how long we’re on the planet we will always have baggage, that’s not the point, the point is how we are willing to deal with it as it emerges. Bottom line: To find the one, BECOME THE ONE!

      With gratitude, Dov…

  11. Pat

    Hi Dougie! I had the same problem Karen did – tried to sign up for the standard membership, but also got the same page she did, so couldn’t do it.

    Didn’t know if I should email Debbie, as you suggested for her, so instead thought I’d ask what I should do.

    Regards to you and Ren,
    Patritzia

    • Dov Baron

      Hey Patty cake,

      Yes, send an email to admin and she’ll sort you out.
      See ya on the inside.

      Thanks for letting me know, Dov…

  12. Lina Riga-Berlin

    Hi Dov,
    I want to thank you for the awareness! This past weekend I realized that I have still a lot of crap to clean, “because I my ego-mind’s fixed ideas about relationships.
    This weekend was very eventful and challenging. I received your email on “Life is all about Relationships” and it really brought awareness. I have always felt a disconnection with one of my sibblings and this past weekend was a confirmation of that disconnection. I have to say that you are so right when you say that the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on every aspect of our lives. She certainly has had a profound effect on my life, but in an unhealthy way. I have been some what aware of it but I thought I had cleaned that crap, but you brought in the awareness, that I truely still of a lot of cleaning to do. I also had a taste of the People that surround me that are having a incredible influence on me and that truely want my best interest, growth and well being. I realized I have an amazing mentor and friend.
    Again, thank you for your constant awareness and teachings.

    Forever Greatful,
    Lina

  13. Gina

    Hi Dov and everyone out there,

    Dov love this To find the one, BECOME THE ONE! It is so very true and in life many of us have let others lead us onto roads unknown and rather bumpy because they live their lives full of turmoil and for some reason they love it and thrive, yet they drag down others…if they let them. It is time in my life now to think of ME…because I am important also and I cannot always keep helping others out. That statement you made really kicked home for me.
    I thank you…and will definately take it into consideration of my goals in life.

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The Top 3 Reasons “Leaders” are losing their Star Players!

The Top 3 Reasons
“Leaders” are losing their Star Players!

Unless you have been living under a rock for the past few years, you know that the recession has aggravated what already was a deteriorating relationship between employers and their employees. While things weren’t rosy before, now everyone knows someone (or has experienced it themselves!) who has been caught in layoffs, buyouts, downsizing, capsizing, and reductions in benefits, not to mention freezes on new hires, pay raises, and promotions.

And you also know the result: People are willing to abandon companies like the proverbial rats on a sinking ship because no one feels safe!

The reason isn’t rocket science. If you even suspect that the ship you are on could go down and something else comes along, there’s a good chance you’d jump ship too. Think about it.  The fear doesn’t have to be based on facts; a nasty corrosive rumour can have people racing toward the exits just as easily.

A Wharton School of Business article says that most companies can expect to lose anywhere between 20 and 50 percent of their employees in any given year. Few things are more disruptive and costly to your business than an unexpected exodus from your talent pool.

If you want loyalty, you must focus on culture over rhetoric!  Regardless of position, title, or even office size, employees who volitional walk away, generally do so because they perceive some type of disconnect with leadership and/or the values of the company. (This is best reflected in the corporate culture)

It’s no surprise to any of us, but employee loyalty is not what it used to be. In a recent survey of employee benefits, trends, and attitudes, MetLife found that employee loyalty is at a seven-year low.

So what are the Top 3 Reasons “Leaders” lose their Star Players?

Leaders must learn how to deal with conflict.

Be honest, I mean really honest. Are you comfortable with conflict?  By that I don’t mean that you are aggressively looking for some form of fight, but when conflict comes up, can you confront it with compassion and empathy? Do have the skills to resolve the issues?

If not, you can be certain that your team’s morale is going to tank faster than a preschooler who needs a nap because conflict is the nature of relationship.

You’ve got to understand that crappy moral is contagious!  Problems that don’t get addressed, be they feuds between departments (silos), interpersonal quarrels, or performance issues all negatively impact employee enthusiasm, motivation, and ultimately loyalty.

Before we go any further, I want to set something straight…small problems do not go away. Small problems that are ignored develop into resentment, and will develop into bigger problems. (Don’t believe me? Ask the person you live with…Go on, I dare you.)

A leader who does not–or cannot–deal with conflict will immediately start to lose the trust and respect of her/his employees. And you and I both know that you can’t lead without trust and respect.

That being said, a leader who is a master of conflict resolution knows that healthy conflict creates a deepening bond. (Again, if you don’t believe me, ask the person you live with if, after you have actually stopped avoiding the conflict and got it all out on the table, they inevitably feel closer to you.)

Leaders must become masterful at dealing with generational diversity.

Generational bias has always been an issue, however, now more than ever in a global economy, it can be a crippling one.  As a discerning leader, I am going to ask you an important question. Do you believe that a Baby Boomer (people born between 1946 and 1964), Generation Xer (people born between mid 1960s to the early 1980s), Millennial (people born between 1982 and 2000) are all treated equally in the climb to the top?

Here’s an example from way back in the last century. I can remember when I first started speaking to individuals and organizations of influence back in the 80s. At that time, I came across research that said it took a rookie over 100 hours to learn the skills to become a fighter pilot.

It was estimated that that same level of training could be completed to competence in around 20 hours by a GenXer because of their much higher exposure to technology. Then came the Millennials. These latest members of the work force have grown up with even more electronic interface than the generation X group, and as a result their TQ (technical intelligence) far exceeds those of the last two generations.

The challenge can be that as a leader you are likely to be either a Boomer or an Xer, have likely climbed through the ranks and invested a considerable amount of time in getting where you are today. Now you are likely to find yourself leading Millennials, while having an empathetic bias towards your own generation.

You see, part of the challenge is that we often (even unconsciously) use the time we’ve put in, rather than effectiveness, as a standard of measure. Furthermore, even if we are measuring the effectiveness of our top players, our leaders, it’s important that we examine whether our criteria for measurement may also be outdated.

The challenge is that if the criteria by which we measure authentic leadership remain the same as it was for old school leadership, we won’t be able to recognise the value that is in front of us.

 

Leaders must learn how to lead in new ways.

The most important of the Top 3 Reasons “Leaders” are losing their Star Players is because of Inauthentic Leadership!

There was a time when a leader could lead through image, reputation, experience, force or any combination thereof…However, hold on to your seats. Ladies and Gentlemen, because that train has already left the station!

Today, if you want to keep your star players, you had better find out who they are, what they care about, what “really” motivates them, and how they want to be rewarded for great work. (Check out my special report called: The Full Monty Fierce Loyalty Generator http://FMLoyalty.com)

What this means is that if you want to generate fierce loyalty in your team (and ultimately in your customer and supplier base,) you have to show up and let them see you…warts and all.

I realize that this flies in the face of what you originally learned about being a leader and elevating yourself away from your “underlings.” Although that might have worked at some point in time, that outdated model will have your Star Players deserting you and your company so fast it will make your head spin!

Of course, there are far more than three reasons Leaders are losing their Star Players. I have just focused on the top three so that you can begin incorporating change right away.

In summary, if you want to keep your Star Players you must become a master of dealing with conflict in a healthy way. You will also need to seek to understand the other generations you are working with, remembering they likely have different values and priorities than you). And finally, you must be willing to let your people in, let them see that you are more than your title, or even your experience. Let them see you as a person!

Despite what you’ve been told, the truth is that Vulnerability is Power in the new global economy!

 

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Business Growth What’s Your Business Doing?
I need to ask you an important question. What’s your business doing?  Is it growing, staying about the same or losing ground?  Now let’s be brutally honest—and I suspect if you are like most business owners, you may be tempted to deny this–but if your business isn’t growing, it’s dying!

Now that you’ve caught your breath, let’s get clear about what I mean by growing. Growing in this context is NOT about experiencing 1%-3% growthdue to the fact that you laid off a bunch of people or radically cut cost and potentially the quality of what you do/produce. That’s not growing. That’s slowing the dying process.

Real growth is more than temporarily increasing the profit margin. If we are going to talk growth in business, one of the key areas we have to discuss is the quality of the leadership.

It could be argued that leadership is the most important quality for any business professional to have. With quality leadership, nearly any and every task can be accomplished.  Think about a leader you have known in the past.  This could be a boss, a teacher, a pastor, a congressman. Did this person inspire you? Did they make you angry, or did they not affect you at all?

If you said they didn’t affect you, you’d be wrong. Despite what you may believe, there is a powerful and somewhat destructive impact of having leaders who don’t inspire us.  And the main reason leaders don’t inspire is because they are disengaged.

We know from a 2011 Gallup Poll that 71% of American workers are “not engaged” or are “actively disengaged” in their work. But don’t be fooled into thinking it’s just the worker bees who are disengaged. Many top level C-suite executives are just as disengaged.  These leaders close their office doors and distance themselves from the group they are supposed to be leading.

Obviously, this sort of leadership is not the kind you desire in your organization.  But I hate to break it to you, but there’s a very good chance that you have leaders like that in your own organization. These “leaders” have positions of authority and you may even be assuming that they are leading in the direction of growth. However, where they are really leading is in the direction of keeping their position, title, status and or lifestyle. They are not mission, purpose or growth driven. They are not actively engaged in the corporate value system. They are, however, tremendously engaged in increasing their own personal bottom lines.

They are disengaged leaders!

Now you may still want to argue that it’s not the leadership that is the problem with lack of growth in your company, but with employees who don’t care.

Let me let you in on a dirty little secret. Employees disengage for one of three reasons:

  1. 1. They are being led by a disengaged leader.
  2. 2. They are at odds with the organization’s mission/purpose and or values.
  3. 3. They are a bad fit for your corporate culture. (Assuming your company actually has a corporate culture that’s more than a concept.)

Here’s the hard line truth behind all three of these reasons: employees disengage because leaders are disengaged at some level and therefore not authentically leading!

Let’s take a closer look at those three reasons.

First, if employees have a disengaged leader, you can pretty much guarantee they will become lazy themselves.  This is not necessarily because employees are inherently lazy, but rather, because employees (like children) do not do what they are told; they simply model the behaviour of their superiors.  If the leader doesn’t care about the growth of the company, neither will the employees.

When a team is led by a disengaged leader, there’s a good chance that team members will simply just do what they have to do in order to meet their job description, and not do anything to grow themselves or your organization.

Second, when employees are at odds with the organization’s mission/purpose and or values this again indicates poor leadership, because your leaders need to be crystal clear that every person who enters your employ fully understands the organization’s mission/purpose and or values. This is not possible if the leaders themselves do not understand it.

Let me give you an example. In 2006 a multinational company brought us to Europe to work with their leadership team. This was a dramatically impactful training that clearly rattled a lot of cages. Instead of my just coming in and doing the usual rah-rah, look how great you folks are, now let’s just pat each other on the back, I challenged the heck out of them.

Why did I do this? In my pre-interview with the individuals on the team, it became obvious that they were relationally disconnected from each other. This told me they were likely disconnected from the company as a whole and were therefore in all likelihood working in a silo mentality.

After a lengthy discussion with the global CEO about the need to break these silos and get the team to genuinely not only connect but bond, we went back into session.

I began by asking a single pointed question that they were required to answer out loud in fort of their peers and without the assistance of their peers. This simple question clearly caused the blood pressure of the CEO to rise. The question was:  “Would you please state out loud the mission statement of this company?” Each answer clearly demonstrated a challenge at the core of the company because no one (with exception of the Global CEO) actually knew the answer.

No wonder they were disengaged. You cannot expect your team to be fully engaged in the growth of a company when their only connection is a paycheck. Everyone in your organization must be aligned with the mission, purpose and vision of the company if it is to experience true growth.

Finally, if an employee is a bad fit for your culture, this again falls on leadership.  If the corporate culture isn’t lived by the leaders, it indicates to employees that the culture doesn’t matter and therefore it doesn’t matter if a person fits or not.  In a “momentum culture” there is congruence at every level from janitor to the C-suite.

It all comes down to this… For your company to grow you have to have all the obvious things like a rock-solid business plan, great procedural implementation and everything else we all know is the back bone of a business. However, for growth to have momentum, it must have legs. The three legs on which your company must be built in order to continue to grow are authentic, inspiring, and transparent leadership.  In other words, A Full Monty Leader.

Now, don’t get the wrong idea. The Full Monty Leader is not a rah-rah leader.  Absolutely not!  A Full Monty Leader will occasionally anger their team, not because they are being adversarial but rather because a Full Monty Leader is required to hold a greater vision of each of the individuals of the team than the members hold for themselves. Only then can team members begin to adopt the vision for themselves. This is an essential principle that will deeply inspire the people who are in your organization for more than a paycheck.

Full Monty Leadership is about developing a culture of authentic, engaged leaders at every level of your organization.  Leaders who feel deeply emotionally connected to the mission purpose and values of the company.

When you have that kind of leadership, you not only generate fierce loyalty but develop a company that is actively growing.

So let me ask you again– What’s Your Business Doing?

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Transparency THE Key to Successful Leadership
I have a question for you. What is the single most important key to successful leadership in today’s economy?

If you answered anything except being an authentic leader, you’d be wrong.

Being an authentic leader today is no longer a preference or an option. It is crucial!

Now let me be clear.  We are not talking about the idea of being authentic. We aren’t talking about the faux authenticity of sharing something that you think will impress someone.  No, we are talking about being real and genuine, being true to who you are and what you stand for.

An authentic leader is willing to embrace that they will not be everyone’s cup of tea, and what’s more, they are good with that realization. The leaders who are blazing the trail of new leadership are dedicated to developing deeper and deeper authenticity not only in themselves, their teams, but also in all their relationships on an ongoing basis.

They are willing to be who they really are.

Authentic leaders are dedicated to knowing themselves at deeper and deeper levels.  They embrace their own imperfections and they don’t pretend to have it all together.  They are transparent and they are honest about their imperfections, their inadequacies and the challenges they face. Where the old school leader would disown their failures or weaknesses, the authentic leader allows those things to propel them forward, because they understand thatVulnerability is Power.

As counter as it may seem to your original training as a leader, you need to know this at the depth of your being, so let me say it again:  Vulnerability is Power. Vulnerability is the power that will bond your star players to you and your organization. It will also bond your customers and providers to you with fierce loyalty.

I know what some of you are thinking. If you look and act confident that should be enough.  Let me tell you, if you think wearing your mask of confidence is going to work, you are dreaming! People can smell a fake a mile away.  That mask is screaming your insecurities so you might as well hang it up and become transparent.

So what is transparency?

Yes, transparency is about admitting your imperfections, your inadequacies and your challenges. However, it’s also about sharing your values, your mission, your vision and the meaning of why you do what you do. Transparency means opening up and sharing ideas, thoughts, goals, aspirations, values, worries, concerns and even downfalls.

Today’s workplace places high demands on both leaders and employees.More and more employees are now insisting on clearly stated reality and truth.  Apart from the need of a secure job and opportunities for career advancement, present workers desire to be part of a firm that prioritizes truth, trust and transparency. They desire to have proactive leaders who share with them the direction of the organization and are forthright about the future. They want transparency in order to plan for their lives.

Instead of just being content with having a job, today’s employee will often quickly jump ship if the leader they are supposed to follow is unwilling to demonstrate clarity of the future and transparent leadership.  (I go into detail about this in my special report on Becoming a Fierce Loyalty Generator. You can find it here: http://FMLoyalty.com)

Because many companies lack awareness regarding the needs of employees, they struggle to hold on to their star players. As stated in that special report–few things are more disruptive and costly to your business than an unexpected exodus from your talent pool. Despite the initial discomfort of removing the mask, in organizations where transparent, authentic leadership is made a priority, massive losses are prevented.

None of us can be authentic unless we are willing to admit our frustrations, insecurities and weaknesses. This is not to suggest that you should sit around moaning, complaining and whining about your problems—that would be a very poor career move.  However, in both our personal and professional lives, it is crucial that we open ourselves up to a close circle of people we can trust.

All that being said, transparent leadership starts with something few leaders have the cojones to do:  self-examination.

As leaders we can get carried away with knowing all the answers foreverything else outside ourselves and rarely do we take the time to know more about what’s inside ourselves.  In addition, all of us have a spot of denial about our own foibles.

Let’s face it, denial is far easier than facing the harsh truth that we may have some dysfunctional behaviors that we need to deal with. But if we are to become an authentic leader, we need to take off the self viewing rose-colored glasses, increase our self-awareness and uncover our blind spots. In short, you need to know your strengths so that you can capitalize on them. At the same time, you need to know your weaknesses so that you can delegate and deal with them.

Being an authentic leader means having an awareness of the true emotions behind what you feel. In Full Monty Leadership we say, “We are never just mad about what we are mad about.” What this means is your anger may be a cover up, a way to mask your disappointment, fear, shame, jealousy, embarrassment, shame or guilt.  Because authentic leaders are will to always go deeper into self-examination, they can recognize the root of an emotional reaction, and by doing so, gain the power to manage it. (This gives the Full Monty Leader exceptional relationship skills)

Can you honestly (not rhetorically) say why you do what you do in your position? Do you know what irritates you and what soothes you? Are you aware of your own dark side (we all have one) and how to deal with it? In order to be authentic and genuine in all your communications you must know yourself very well and be committed to remaining truly authentic even when it’s uncomfortable.

Because nothing generates fierce loyalty faster that an authentic leader.

Do you have the cojones to become one?

For opportunities to have Dõv Baron speak for your organization, Call:

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Dõv Baron

Dõv Baron
Leading Expert

Meet Dõv Baron

Dov Baron is a headline speaker for global conferences on leadership, influence, business and embracing purpose driven authentic leadership. He has been speaking internationally for over 30 years. He’s the man with a finger on the pulse of the evolving world of NextGen leadership.

One of Inc. Magazine’s Top 100 Leadership Speakers to hire, Dov Baron is a master storyteller and considered by many as one the leading authorities on Authentic, Purpose Driven Leadership. Outside of speaking and training, Dov works with diverse leaders and executive teams to build the bonds
that create organizational cultures that become Fiercely Loyal.

Dov is a bestselling author of several books. His latest book is Fiercely Loyal; How High Performing Companies Develop and Retain Top Talent. (In-Phase Publishing, 2015 ©)

He also writes for and has been featured in many industry magazines including being featured on CNN, CBS Small Business Pulse, SHRM, Yahoo Finance, Boston Globe, Business in Vancouver, USA today, CEO, Entrepreneur and many more.

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Dov has also been an independent leadership advisor to the United Nations (UN).

Dõv’s international Leadership & Loyalty podcast is ranked the number one podcast for Fortune 500 Executives globally.Inc.com also names his podcast as: The #1 podcast To Make You a Better Leader, G&A also cited his show in the Top 10 Podcasts For HR Pros & Managers.

Life-Changing Story:

In June 1990, while free rock climbing, Dov Baron fell approximately 120 feet and landed on his face. The impact shattered most of the bone structure of his face, disintegrating some of his upper jaw and fracturing his lower jaw in four places. After nine reconstructive surgeries, no external evidence remains of the damage; however, this experience was life-changing.

Before the fall, Dov had spent years building a reputation as a dynamic speaker and teacher in the field of personal and professional development, but it wasn’t until years after the fall that he began to see the beauty and elegance of what had really happened – the return to his own CORE –what he calls his ‘Authentic Self’.

Today:

Today, Dov has been sharing his wisdom and expertise privately and on international stages with professional leaders for more than 30 years. Dov’s influence has created a massive social media platform with over 200,000 followers via Face book, Twitter, LinkedIn, Podomatic, iTunes etc.

He has interviewed and worked with leaders featured on: Oprah, Ellen, CNN, Fox, MSNBC, CBS, Huffington Post, Larry King, New York Times, Washington Post, Forbes, the Wall Street Journal and many other top rated media.

Dov’s “KIllTheKeynote” campaign to change the speaking industry went viral to over 5 million people on social media. He is now speaking for some of Europe’s wealthiest families at Scone Palace, Next-Gen leaders with UnleashWD and the Legacy Show, and top American c-suite leaders for The #CSuite Network.

In addition to being an author and a radio host, Dov is also the leading expert on Developing Authentic Leadership and he is the world’s only Corporate Cultural Momentum Strategist, serving top performance individuals, corporations and organizations to generate both exponential growth and fierce loyalty.

His passion mixed with humour and ‘get to the point’ no BS style are contagious. Within moments, you will feel a genuine connection with a man who authentically walks his talk. Dov believes that the world needs more leaders who are Authentically committed to living their purpose, standing in their truth, sharing their inner genius, and empowering others to do the same.

Dov’s commitment is to take you by the hand and show you why tapping into your Authentic Self is the MOST important key to finding, developing, and retaining your top talent.

To engage Dov Baron for media  interviews, speaking  at your events, or consulting at your organization, please write to…

Admin@DovBaron.com 
Dov@DovBaron.com 
or call +1-778-379-7517.

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PURPOSE, PASSION AND PROFIT IN A DISRUPTIVE AGE.

Leaders today are living in what is arguably the most disruptive time since the beginning of the industrial revolution. The leaders that emerge at the top of their game will be the ones who not only adapt but disrupt the very industries they wish to lead. However, disruption for the sake of disruption is a waste of time, effort and resources and downright damaging! 

According to the research of Richard Foster, Yale University:

“The average life span of a company listed on the S&P 500 has decreased from 67 years (without disruption) in the 1920’s to 15 years today”.

Looking forward, the questions we must boldly face today are: 

  • Do you as a leader know how to tap into the single most important factor that will determine whether your organization stays at the top of their game or fade off into irrelevance?
  • Do you and your organization know what will be the differentiating principles of those that will not only reach the top but also stay there? 
  • Do you know what the number one determining factor of loyalty in both today’s highly skilled workforce and customer base is?

In this presentation Dov Baron will share with you:

  • How you can precisely discover what it takes to tap into the psychological motivations and drivers of your most talented team members and your best customers.
  • You’ll discover why so many leaders fail to follow through on their decisions.
  • You will discover how to precisely how to have them take dynamic action right away.  
  • Discover why working more diligently on your technical skills could put you out of business.
  • Discover what’s transforming current business leaders in the new global market place

This is an exciting and innovative presentation designed for those who are committed to being true industry leaders who thrive in this and the next generation of business and leadership!

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EVOLVING NEXT-GEN AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP:

The Alchemy Of Turning Leadership Deficits Into Gold (Perfect For Multi-Generational Family Business)

Simply being born into a position of authority no longer guarantees that people will willingly follow you (if it ever did!) Today there is a deep-rooted and ever-growing dissatisfaction with leaders who appear to be entitled and who act self-serving. While no one can change the circumstances of family roots, it is possible and necessary to evolve the culture into a new model of leadership. A model that not only stewards the family legacy, but also integrates it into the necessities of being a contemporary leader. Leadership that include being grounded, empathetic, compassionate, passionate, purpose driven and sincerely authentic.

Such an evolution is no longer just an option. Business today exists within a global realm and requires a new kind of greatness that both embraces and fully utilizes that global aspect. But how do leaders find, embrace, and develop that greatness so that they can become the eminent business “monarchs” the world needs?

In this interactive presentation Dov walks each of the participants through the internal journey of “From Knight to King” that demonstrates the integration of authentic leadership by giving penetrating insight into the four types of knights who are on the path to becoming king (or queen). Each of the knights demonstrates an aspect of a leader that can become dominant and overpowering. The key to effective leadership evolution is to recognize and integrate each of these Knights into the King (or queen).

Here is an overview of the elements required to become a monarch:

In this training Dov Baron takes apart the structure of knighthood and lays it out in a contemporize understanding of leadership.

Everyone who has elevated to the position of leader has in some way shown some natural ability to lead. Nevertheless, we tend to lead in the way that is most familiar, or natural to us. However, we find that those who rise to the top are those who have the ability to grow outside of their natural bound by collecting and coalescing all of the leadership archetypes skills and uses them when and where its most appropriate.  

Below are the four primary leadership archetypes you will need to become a monarch:

  • The Power of the Red Knight:The Red Knight is a leader who symbolizes passion and drive. A lead that has the ability to move things forward and make them happen.
  • The Power of the White Knight:The White Knight is a leader who symbolizes deep empathetic and compassionate care for those they lead. This leader has the ability and the drive to see their people as individuals. The white knight sees trees when others can only see a forest.
  • The Power of the Green Knight:The Green Knight is a leader who symbolizes driven by the desire to have purpose and create legacy. The green knight leader has the ability to see the forest when others only see trees.
  • The Power of the Black Knight:the Black Knight is a leader who symbolizes driven by a desire for an ever-deepening self-knowledge and wisdom. The black knight has a rare ability to remain on task without the insatiable pull for approval. Because of this Black knights are the trailblazers. 

As you read through the overview of each knight there’s a good chance that you felt a certain affinity to one as a dominant and maybe even another on had a secondary pull. That being said, it is crucial is that as much as you are pulled to one, you are not just one of them. Leaders have to take their strengths and expand them to integrate all four archetypes.

If a leader fails to integrate all four or does so in a haphazard or isolated manner such a lead can be extremely detrimental and destructive. Potentially destroying companies, tearing apart teams and effectively chasing away an organizations top talent 

So how do heritage leaders become not just worthy, but truly ready to own the worthiness of their position? By embracing the journey from Knight to Monarch in a way that enables them to assess where they are now, where they would ideally like to be and to create the path that will get them there, both in and outside of the family business and legacy.

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FIERCELY LOYAL EMPLOYEES… Finding And Keeping Your Talent

The world has changed, and so has everything we know about becoming—and remaining—an effective leader when it comes to retaining employees – especially Millennials. In a 2014 Global research study the number one issue facing CEO’s was that of retaining top talent.

Many leaders today are left scratching their heads in confusion as to why many of their very best people simply pick up and walk away… particularly when they seem to be offering great salaries and upward mobility. As you’ll find out in this presentation what we’ve offered in the past and what motivated people to be fiercely loyal no longer works. 

Successful Leadership today requires not just loyalty but FIERCE loyalty. So why is Fiercely Loyal so important? Because it’s the difference between someone waking up inspirited to work for you, thinking of your company as a place for their future, verses being in a place where they want to use the skills and abilities they got from you to take them away form you and on to ‘something better’. The fiercely loyal employee has a deep sense of connection to your organization because it becomes something bigger than them.  As such they become evangelical about the organization making them a top recruiting resource.  

We are in the biggest workforce demographic change of all time, which means that in the immediate future, corporate winners will be decided by the Millennial generation. Those who fail to attract and retain Millennial talent will lose. It’s as simple as that.

Loyalty has become the single most essential ingredient in every successful organization especially with the average cost of turnover to an organization is between 1.5 – 2X the annual salary of that employee. Therefore, the question becomes: How do you develop the kind of leadership and culture that will have your people become not just loyal but Fiercely loyal?

In this Live Interactive Strategy Session, Dov shares how to develop Fiercely Loyal Employees by focusing on:

  • What Creates Loyalty today?
  • The Characteristics of a Notable Leader
  • Creating a culture the generates fierce loyalty
  • Why Purpose Matters More Than Profit in creating a stronger bottom line
  • The 4 C’s: Cooperation, Collaboration, Contribution, Community.
  • The Power of Story Telling
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FIERCELY LOYAL CUSTOMERS… Getting Your Customers To Fall In Love With Your Products. Services And Brand.

Keeping customers loyal has become one of the biggest challenge organizations face today because the values of your customers have changed. The research shows that today’s buyers have far less brand loyalty than the previous generations. Today’s customers, especially Millennials (now approaching 40 at their eldest) want to look good, feel good and do good.

The old rule of business was that a company had to create a professional image. As you will see in this presentation if that is your focus today, when dealing with Millennials you will actually be pushing them away.

Today’s leading businesses understand the number one priority is to create a genuine connection with their customer. This of course is not new, connection has always worked in creating customer loyalty. However, the major difference is the Millennial consumer, doesn’t simply want it they demand it!

Today’s customers are no longer willing to simply buy from you; you have to get them to buy into you. They want to do business with transparent organizations that are purpose driven.

64 percent of consumers point to shared values as their main reason for working with a brand, and 90 percent expect companies to operate responsibly to address social and environmental issues. 64 percent of consumers say they purchase socially responsible products whenever possible.

The companies that are not purpose driven, transparent and socially responsible are already experiencing their customer’s dropping them like a bad date. 

The cutting edge companies who will dominate have a simple yet profound burning question on their minds: What has to happen in order for us to have our customers fall in love with us?

So how do you create a deep connection with your customers and have them fall in love with and become Fiercely Loyal to your organization?  

In this Live Strategy Session, Dov shares how to develop Fiercely Loyal Customers by focusing on:

  • Find out why your organization has been unable to build the authentic leadership needed to create a fiercely loyal customer base.
  • You will have a direct experience how your business can stand the test of time in the disruptive customer dominant environment.
  • Discover why knowing how to share your organizations story is the magnet that will pull your ideal client to you.
  • Uncover the specific strategies and brain science to have your customers think of your brand with love
  • Solve the mystery of why your customer base are already eyeing up your competition.
  • Discover why “Community” is killing retail outlets, and what you can do to have your customers see you as a centre of a community they deeply desire to be part of.

If you are in a business that recognizes how people buy has dramatically changed, and you want to make sure that you are at the leading edge of having them not only buy from you, but into you and your organization make sure you bring Dov Baron in right away.

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FULL MONTY (AUTHENTIC) LEADERSHIP… How Authenticity Increases Loyalty. Productivity And Profit.

The new generation of high performing leaders understand the value and importance of business and success being people-driven.  Not only are they using the latest technologies and strategies to disrupt their industries, they also recognize something old-school leaders never truly grasped: Soft skills (like Emotional Intelligence and being Purpose Driven) have the greatest impact on your bottom-line.

In this interactive presentation Dov walks each of the participants through developing leaders who can lead themselves, their teams, and whole organizations more effectively… Because You Can’t Outsource Authenticity!

We all know the Hans Christian Anderson story of “The Emperor’s New Clothes.” Tailors manipulate an Emperor’s grand sense of self to have him believe he’s wearing the finest fabric ever made. Rather than admit that he can’t see the fabric he denies the truth. Furthermore, when he goes out in a parade with his “new cloths” everyone goes along with the hoax because they too don’t want to look foolish or challenge the powers that be. The hoax is only revealed when a little boy who only knows how to tell the truth gives others the power to do the same.

What this means for your business is this when your leader (like the boy in the story) stands up and reveals the truth s/he empowers others to do the same. The leader becomes “one of us” and we (human beings) are driven to bond with those who speak a truth we have feared to speak. Think Dr Martin Luther King Jr.

Full Monty leadership is about removing the masks of who we appear to be and revealing who we really are to ourselves and to our people. This in turn removes the barriers the block loyalty, productivity, engagement and ultimately profit.

Make sure that you catch this presentation to find out:

  • How companies with leaders who embrace vulnerability outperform competitors with bigger and better resources
  • How vulnerability truly has the power to Generates Fierce Loyalty
  • How the current and prevalent leadership style maybe plaguing your company and negativity impacting your bottom line.
  • Three sentences guaranteed to generate fierce loyalty
  • How to make sure your top-tier talent doesn’t go to your competitor
  • Why being a Full Monty Leader automatically generates leaders inside your organization
  • How vulnerability is the ultimate charismatic trait

Dõv Baron’s “Full Monty Leadership” is inspired by such leaders as Richard Branson, the Dali Lama, Martin Luther King Jr, John F. Kennedy, Jack Welch, and Larry Winget.

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DISCOVERING YOUR LEGACY AND IMPACT POTENTIAL:

What‘s Next For The Lead Who Is Ready To Step Away From The Top.

Who we see ourselves as is so often defined by what we do, but what happens when it’s time to step down?
Stepping down from a position of authority and power can feel a lot like a loss of identity.

When the sun goes down on our career, it’s easy to think that our moment, our hour, our day in the sun has passed…It has not!

There comes a time when we all must ask ourselves what is likely the most difficult question we will ever ask ourselves, “Who am I”. This question is particularly challenging when who we had seen ourselves as is no longer apparent.

The critical moment for many of us comes when we have to make the shift from being able to answer that question with ease to suddenly feeling that instant cold sweat of knowing that to say who we ‘were’ is not the truth of who we ‘are’.

Having made your mark in the world and having received the accolades and recognition that goes along with doing so is a pretty wonderful achievement, and an exhilarating feeling. However, when we are no longer in that position it’s easy to feel like we have somehow lost ourselves.

One of the greatest challenges of being a “champion”, whether in sports, business, on the screen, or anywhere else, is that when we no longer stand in the spot light, it’s easy to feel like we have somehow become invisible.

How we see ourselves has a profound effect on how effective we are in the world. Make no mistake, when our identity is no longer as solid as it once was the impact can be devastating to our self esteem, self worth, our finances, and our relationships.

One of the most important things to do is to change the game so that you can still win past your previous career and status, because you are greater than your last achievements. The fact that next-gen leaders can reinvent and change careers as often as every four years is a great example, because our body of knowledge and experience can actually do that with even more ease than them.

In this interactive event Dov Baron will show you… 

  • Why even the most accomplished leader can feel lost at the thought of stepping down
  • Why contrary to what you may have been told; your best is Not behind you but ahead of you
  • How to tap into the full and mostly untouched potential of who you are (beyond your past accolades)
  • How to take the worst thing that happened to you and make it into the springboard that will propel you too new and greater heights
  • Why stepping away is your golden ticket for future success
  • How to discover and leverage these untouched resources so that you can make an even greater impact, become a hero again and create a powerful legacy!

 

If you are at that stage of life where you are expected to step down, but you know you’re not done…  If you are ready to discover who you ‘are’ beyond the identity of who you ‘were’… If you suspect that your story, your experience could have tremendous value to those coming up, then this is the presentation for you. Because learning how to tell your story from this place will likely be the most powerful and empowering experience of your life, it is your legacy!

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