In a recent post, I stated that;
“Most people’s lives are nothing more than the realization of a promise they made to themselves”
Let’s take this a little deeper…
These promises that we made to ourselves were in all likelihood ‘unconsciously’ chosen and chances are you made them when you were very young. (Although as you read this you may have had a ‘light bulb moment’ and realized exactly when you made your promise and why you did it).
I spend a lot of my time teaching people how to create their reality. However, what I also say is that most people are creating their reality at a very unconscious level. In fact, many of them only get conscious of ‘creating reality’ when something different shows up and they quickly scramble to get things back to “normal”.
Now there’s that fascinating word: “Normal”. For most people reading this you are bright enough to realize that normal is at least somewhat subjective. I n that what’s normal for you may not be normal at all for someone living on a different continent in a completely different culture.
However, ‘normal’ goes much “Deeper” than that. Most people without even knowing it, for the most part are unconsciously busy doing their best to keep things normal. But again please note; the normal I’m speaking about is your own version of normal.
For some people when I say normal, they think of the suburban family with two point five kids, a white picket fence and a minivan, but that’s not the kind of normal I am discussing here.
What I’m referring to is your own particular brand of normal. Have you ever heard the saying: “Situation Normal All F*%ked Up?” Well for some people that kind of situation is as indicated, their own brand of ‘normal’. Normal is relative to the individual, as normal as church on Sunday is to one person, smoking crack is to another.
So here’s my challenge to you to bathe in these questions for a while…
What have you made normal that might not be healthy? And…
What promise might you have made to yourself that without you realizing it, is in fact keeping your life pretty much the same as it was?
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Plus if this topic of your future mentally speaks to you, please listen to my podcast where I talk with Jeffrey Hayzlett about “Think Big Act Bigger”:
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