When I was working in the corporate arena years ago, I had the great misfortune of reporting to and working with a number of extremely toxic colleagues and managers whose behavior hurt me and was also a complete mystery to me. I couldn’t understand their raging, their defensiveness, they inability to be challenged or questioned, or their penchant for drumming people out who were not obsequious and total “yes” people to them. And it was astounding to me that leadership and management allowed these individuals to remain in their posts, doing all this damage.
After I became a marriage and family therapist and career coach, I learned a great deal about narcissistic personality disorder, and how it can wreak havoc on those who are in relationships with the narcissist. (Here’s more on how to recognize NPD in your boss and what to do about it.) Several years ago, I wished to help adult children of narcissists in a more direct way, and built a Facebook group of over 2,000 adults who’d been dramatically and negatively affected by the narcissists in their lives. From their sharing, it was even more evident how destructive narcissism is in our lives and work.
From my view, we all need to understand this personality disorder more deeply, not to attack or demean narcissists, but to protect ourselves from harm, build stronger boundaries, and learn more about how to navigate effectively through the challenges of working with individuals who demonstrate these traits.
Those of a certain vintage will remember the era of resumes in the mail, strict dress codes and urgent (printed) memos delivered by mail trolley. In just one generation, the way Canadian companies do business has undergone nothing short of a revolution – or two. At the same time, the younger half of the workforce has added
a wildly different set of priorities and perspectives into the mix. In essence, business is operating within an entirely new setting – but plenty of organizations are still run by people whose leadership styles are stuck in the past. GOOD-BYE TO COMMAND AND CONTROL
“When you think about it, we’ve had a similar leadership style since the Roman Empire, which was pretty much command and control,” said Dov Baron, leadership speaker, bestselling author, and corporate cultural strategist.
Until recently, that made sense. When change moved at a slower pace, companies could stand to depend on a handful of people at the top reviewing all the necessary intelligence to chart a course and (slowly) contemplate action. These days, though, there’s just too much data from too many directions for one person or one small team to take in and assess. There’s also greater volatility and uncertainty to contend with, as well as competitors who are increasingly agile. Clearly, something has to give, but what? “From a leadership standpoint, there has to be a mental shift from ‘the buck stops here’ or ‘I have to have all the answers’ to really being a facilitator of intelligence,” said Cheryl Cran, management coach, consultant, public speaker and entrepreneur. “Now, leaders
need to be able to gather or crowdsource employees’ ideas and to incorporate them into the company’s direction.” The younger generation requires different things of their leaders, as well. “This is the selfie generation,” said Baron. “When I would go to a concert, I would take a picture of David Bowie or whoever was on stage. Now, this generation wants to be in the photo with the star. It’s an, ‘I must matter as much as,’ way of thinking.”
To Help Others Overcome Setbacks, Set A Tone
“Dov Baron is a special entrepreneur, he does amazing podcasts, but he’s also a speaker and a consultant. For 34 years he’s been helping entrepreneurs, not only taking to business to the next level but if you like to 10x your business, then Dov is the guy.” – Kevin Harrington. This is one of the many compliments that Dov receives regularly. Dov Baron is a headline speaker for global conferences on leadership, influence, business and embracing purpose driven authentic leadership. He has been speaking internationally for over 30 years. He’s the man with a finger on the pulse of the evolving world of NextGen leadership.
In June 1990, while free rock climbing, Dov Baron fell approximately 120 feet and landed on his face.
The impact shattered most of the bone structure of his face, disintegrating some of his upper jaw
and fracturing his lower jaw in four places. After nine reconstructive surgeries, no external evidence
remained of the damage; however, this experience was life-changing. Before the fall, Dov had spent years building a reputation as a dynamic speaker and teacher in the field of personal and professional development, but it wasn’t until years after the fall that he began to see the beauty and elegance of what had really happened – the return to his own CORE –what the calls his ‘Authentic Self’.
Today, Dov has been sharing his wisdom and expertise privately and on international stages with professional leaders for more than 30 years. Dov’s influence has created a massive social media platform with over 200,000 followers via Face book, Twitter, LinkedIn, Podomatic, iTunes etc. Dov’s commitment is to take you by the hand and show you why tapping into your Authentic Self is the MOST important key to finding, developing, and retaining your top talent. One of Inc.
Setbacks are a fact of life. It’s how you respond to and overcome setbacks that sets you apart from the crowd.
To Help Others Overcome Setbacks, Set A Tone
The leader needs to overcome obstacles and live with a never-say-die attitude. That’s how you get others to overcome setbacks, too.
“You cannot expect anybody else to be persistent if you won’t,” Dov Baron, CEO of Vancouver, B.C.-based leadership training and strategy firm Dov Baron International and author of “Purpose’s Missing Piece,” told IBD.
Find The Driving Force
People need an overarching reason to keep pushing when they hit a roadblock. That reason can’t be monetary, Baron says. It won’t last. If you say the company needs one key sale to pass the $1 million mark, employees won’t deeply care. If you tie it to a bonus, it might work for a short time but not for the long run.
Baron tells business leaders to talk to employees about how they’ll use that bonus. If an employee envisions that as a way to take a family vacation, now the incentive isn’t money, it’s spending time with family.
“You have to attach a purpose,” Baron said. “It’s not logical. It’s emotional.”
Rather than viewing themselves as a knight in shining armor, tasked with rescuing their company from fire-breathing dragons, highly effective leaders face and slay their personal dragons. This is one of many thought-provoking concepts put forth by leadership expert Dov Baron in his new book. Find out if you’re a business leader trying to slay the wrong dragons.
Dov is one of those professionals who demonstrates great leadership. He adds value to his guests when on his radio show and extracts value for his listening audience.
Founder & CEO at Daily Standards
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Creator of the Servant Leadership Institute. Owner and cultural architect of Datron World Communications Inc. Leadership Author.
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